The Uncrossable Line

As an artist I work with lines every day.  Literal and figurative lines.

Picture 757Identifying,
following,
creating lines
is my passion,
my profession,
and
my way through life.

Finding the line that pulls you into a painting is my joy.

As a human being I deal with lines every day.  Literal and figurative lines. n1102413009_467690_3194645

We navigate through life not all that differently than when we were children skipping down the sidewalk avoiding the cracks.

“Step on a crack, break your mother’s back.”

It was not until this morning that I realized how much wisdom is hidden in the ancient children’s game.

DSCN7977Beware the cracks.
Beware the lines.
Step on a crack and you can’t go back.

Some lines cannot be uncrossed. 

Late last night I was painting and I did something I almost never do.
I usually let what happens happen and deal with it later as part of my process.
Life happens.
You deal.
It becomes part of the journey.

13139001_1145873785465033_6540681328239293239_n - CopyLast night I laid down painted lines that did not belong.  In a heartbeat I knew it was wrong.

The lines did not move the narrative forward.  Using a large, stiff paint brush and clean water I scrubbed away the offending paint from the canvas.

It was not too late.

13173971_1145926835459728_2620417145335302122_nThe water and friction dissolved the offending lines and the diluted paint ran down the canvas.  Using a bath towel, decorated with purple roses, from my childhood, I wiped dried the canvas.    The “mistake” was erased, the lines were gone, but other areas were erased as well.  “Undo” works great on computers.  Not so well with art or life.

There are always consequences when we go back.

I crossed a line.  I was able to go back and make reparation.

This is not always the case.  Some lines cannot be uncrossed.


13164193_1145952232123855_3387282237895743044_nSometimes it is too late.

The offending lines were caused by my carelessness.
It was late.
I was tired.
I was jacked up on a second pot of oolong tea.
The lino stamp I carved was complicated.
Ever so carefully I aligned the stamp and, with confidence, pressed the stamp onto the canvas.

Stepping back to admire my handiwork.
The right stamp.
The right place.
The right time.
It.  Was.  Upside.  Down!

13226699_1156467584405653_5944989603705554049_nMy heart was in the right place, but the result was upside down.

We don’t always have everything we need to do right.

And sometimes we do have everything we need and it still isn’t enough.

User error. 

We are careless with what is in front of us.
We don’t recognize the dangers.
We don’t recognize the privilege.

We are mindless of repercussions.

13245225_1156519771067101_1591953359326822326_n - CopyAn old towel, a stiff brush, and water are seldom enough to erase our mark.
Some lines cannot be uncrossed.

Awareness of lines is healthy.

Lines delineate boundaries.
Lines define space.
Lines indicate direction.

Lines communicate.

What is the written word but a conglomeration of lines assigned meaning.

And then there are mean words.

(Mean is a complicated word.  A noun, a verb, and an adjective.)

Some lines cannot be uncrossed.

I have been contemplating lines.  Literal and figurative lines.
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In life there is no going back, only forward. 

I know what forward looked like today.
I do not know what forward will look like tomorrow.

My paintings are my attempt to encourage myself,
and in the process,
encourage others
to keep moving forward.

My paintings are a declaration that beauty is possible.
The lines on the canvas
and the lines on our faces form our stories.

Some lines cannot be uncrossed.

Some lines, crossed, deserve celebration!  13221553_1156470021072076_2640906238126635106_n

Painting by Gaslight

220px-Gaslight-1944Have you seen the movie Gaslight?
I have not and I am torn between curiosity and fear.   Maybe I’ll watch it next week.

My husband handed me an article, “10 Things I wish I’d known About Gaslighting”  by Shea Emma Fett.  If I read no further than the first sentence it would have been enough:

“Gaslighting is the attempt of one person
to overwrite another person’s reality. “

07 Oct 1935, Finsbury Park, London, England, UK --- A lamplighter lights a gas streetlight in London's Finsbury Park during a foggy morning. October 7, 1935. --- Image by © Hulton-Deutsch Collection/CORBIS
07 Oct 1935, Finsbury Park, London, England, UK — A lamplighter lights a gas streetlight in London’s Finsbury Park during a foggy morning. October 7, 1935. — Image by © Hulton-Deutsch Collection/CORBIS

When I googled the article to find ya’ll the link  I was SHOCKED that so many articles with the same title existed.  This is NOT an isolated or rate problem.  It is good to know when you are not alone or crazy.

Gaslighting is the new black.
It goes with everything!

9b8e4b97d8fcd95d082f8e151ebf146cI grew up believing that TRUTH sets us FREE.
I still believe.  It is the mantra inside my head, my heart, my body and my soul.

A liar knows the truth and chooses to tell a lie.  A gaslighter may not know  they are lying.

Unable or unwilling, to pay the price for freedom, the gaslighter creates a new narrative to change reality.  Each time the narrative is repeated it becomes more concrete until it solidifies into their reality.  At this point the alternative reality has become fact.

ArtForStripes014We all stray from the facts. Honestly, just how big was that fish?    

Fish stories are not gaslighting. Fish stories are entertainment!

Gaslighters create their narrative to justify behavior.  Sometimes gaslighting is a survival technique. When reality becomes too painful another reality is invented.

A gaslighter is often articulate, passionate and sincere.
A gaslighter passionately and sincerely believes the created reality.

To question that reality is to assault their character.  Collected Memories(1)
Facts, as everyone knows can’t be changed.
Facts just are.

Except when they are not.

How do you resolve conflicting realities?
How do you communicate with someone who believes you are the liar?
How do you maintain relationships with someone who questions your heart?

A story repeated often enough becomes truth.  Hitler was a master gaslighter.  www.Snopes.com is a website devoted to dismantling oft repeated stories.

knightronix_3mantle_6v_battery_solar_gaslight_controller“Gaslighting is the attempt of one person
to overwrite another person’s reality.”

Gaslighting is scary s#it!
Having a name for it is helpful.

Freedom is never free.  Truth, the price of freedom, is not cheap.  Some pay a higher price than others.  Life is not fair.

Now that I know the truth about gaslighting, what it looks like, and how it impacts lives, mine and others, WHAT AM I GONNA DO ABOUT IT?

Drumroll ………. What am I going to do with this revelation?
I don’t know.
I do not know.

When I don’t know I write, I knit, I walk, I ride, and I paint what I know.

gaslight_petrol_lamp_by_jantiff_stocks-d6cf08t I paint hope.
I paint beautiful abstracts that embody journey.

Hope and journey.

Parts of the journey are breathtakingly beautiful.

Parts of the journey are mundane.

Parts of the journey are not just ugly but they smell bad, too.

I paint.

Every brushstroke is an affirmation that beauty is possible.

I cannot imagine a way forward.

gaslight-fogThe way forward is not limited by my imagination.

I cannot imagine a way forward, but I hope for a way.
I hope for beautiful endings.

I hope.

I paint.

I search for the next step.
I paint hope.